August 30, 2005

Don't Wanna Jinx Myself...

but I think we're nearing a temporary schedule! I know I can't expect it to go on forever, but I think I'm figuring it out for now. Up at 7, eat, change, play, eat. Nap from 10-12:30. Eat, change, play, eat, change, eat. Nap from 4-7. Eat, change, play, eat, change, eat. Eat, eat, eat. Down at 11. Up once during the night.


What You Don't Know Can't Hurt You

A man who doesn't want to watch his wife give birth is a jerk.

That's the opening line of a recent piece in Slate about society's expectations of expectant fathers. The line is a paraphrase of the more extreme epithets some female bloggers directed at men who do not wish to be present at childbirth ("total asshole", "squeamish and dishonourable").

Luckily, people reacted to my decision to leave the birth to Liz and her mother with considerably less vehemence. As Meghan O'Rourke points out in the Slate article,

Until 30 or so years ago few men were in the delivery room, and now nearly all are: That's a huge cultural shift.

Perhaps the human race hasn't suddenly figured it all out since 1965 - maybe tens of thousands of years of human history can offer at least some guidance.

Personally, my decision was motivated by two factors. The first was sheer humility - how could I have helped Liz as she experienced childbirth? I'm sure she would have appreciated the effort, but somehow I think I my presence would have been less than reassuring. I didn't want Liz to look up and see someone even more terrified and clueless than she was.

I also didn't feel like my absence made me a bad husband. I think a lot of marital problems are the result of people wanting their spouse to be all things, all the time. I am comfortable enough with myself and our relationship to know that there are some things that I just can't do for Liz (and Grandmom did a great job!).

Secondly, I didn't want to witness Liz giving birth for the same reason we don't watch each other go to the bathroom - some things are better off unseen, even between a husband and wife. There's definitely something to be said for preserving an element of mystery.

August 25, 2005

A Great Night

Last night, we all slept well thanks to Gloria's 9-hour stretch of sleep! She went down around 7 p.m. after a busy day out (and very little sleep while out) and didn't get up until 4 a.m. Fortunately, she also went back to sleep from 5-8 before waking for the day. I am feeling better than I have in weeks!

I had my 6-week post-partum doctor's appointment yesterday. All is well. My incision healed well and everything checked out OK.

August 23, 2005

The Latest Buzz

Currently, I am recovering from a sugar buzz. Last night, Marc and I celebrated my birthday with our first date since Gloria's birth. We went to the Monday night all-you-can-eat dessert buffet at Vaccaro's. If you are a real fan of desserts, I would HIGHLY recommend going. It was nice to get away for a few hours. It was much less nerve-wracking than I imagined. No sitcom-esque calls to my parents every five minutes.

The other buzz is that loyal BOAN reader Frank and his wife, Rebecca, will "bee" welcoming their first child in February. Congratulations and best wishes for a healthy pregnancy!

It's been a good week for us. Gloria is now spending more time awake each day. She loves her swing and spends hours a day in it. She loves to look at the lights and she naps in it during the day. She hasn't slept through the night again for about a week, but she's much easier to handle at night now. She's all business. Gets up, eats, gets a diaper change, eats, goes back to sleep. It's really nice.

August 14, 2005

Oral History

It's been a big weekend for Gloria. On Friday, we got our first real smile from her! It's pretty amazing to watch her smile to show happiness instead of for no apparent reason. Yesterday, she took a bottle from Marc for the first time. She seemed a little nervous at first, but once she figured it out, she took the whole thing very quickly.

August 12, 2005

Some Observations

It's hard to do a "Frequently Asked Questions" post for a baby because the questions and answers change all the time. Instead, I'll try to answer some of the questions I hear now as well as some observations about the baby.

1. She is currently sleeping really well at night (either all night long or only getting up once during the night). We know that this is subject to change, but we're loving it for now.

2. She will not sleep in her bassinet. She will, however, sleep in her car seat that we place in the bassinet. She will also sleep in her baby swing.

3. She will only sleep when swaddled well or being held. Marc is an expert swaddler and I am still learning.

4. She loves to "talk" when she's on the changing table in the morning. She will make all kinds of cute noises. Then, suddenly, she will scream because it's time to eat again. I'm getting better at knowing when the coos are almost turning to screams.

5. Cloth diapering is working out really well. We had a lot of problems with leaks when we were using one particular brand of disposables and have had much greater success with the cloth diapers. Marc did some research and found out that the diaper covers we got don't require pins, so it's REALLY easy. We use disposables when we're going somewhere and have been very happy with Pampers.

6. Nursing is also going well. It's gotten much easier a lot faster than I anticipated.

7. I'm worried that Gloria will recognize the voices of "The Golden Girls" before she recognizes those of some family and friends. I watch it every morning with her while I'm nursing. If she starts cracking wise or telling Sicily stories at a young age, I know that I am solely responsible.

August 10, 2005

One Month Old!

Yesterday was Gloria's one month birthday! We celebrated in high style with a trip to the doctor. She now weighs 9 pounds, 11 ounces and is 23 1/2 inches long. She had to get some blood drawn from her foot for a PKU test. She and I both cried. As sad as the test made her, it didn't last for long AND she slept for 8 1/2 hours straight last night!

On Friday, she had her first bath in the tub. Marc and I were both involved--it's not an easy task. She also greeted her first out-of-state visitor on Friday night when she met her Great Aunt Annette for the first time. Friday was also my first venture out of the house by myself for a bit. I spent an hour at Target and drove for the first time in 4 weeks.

As good as Gloria's sleeping is at night, her daytime habits are a bit different. She'll sleep, but she does not like to be put down. It's not so bad when there are people here, but it's much harder when I'm flying solo.

August 4, 2005

Need More Snooze

Whee! Gloria slept for about 5 ½ hours straight last night!

August 1, 2005

LEGO: Is There Anything It Can't Do?

Now that Liz is on her feet, I've had some time to work on Gloria's room. Along with putting together and moving furniture, I got to do something creative:

Now if only IKEA would get our crib in stock!

The Lost Baby Pictures

For some reason, the daily pictures are not being moderated and the folder they are in has remained private. I'm starting a new folder for August, but here are the ones you may have missed: